Some principles we suggest. These are not dogma. They are suggestions.

Sex is a good thing.

It was created before the fall. Being sexual beings is part of being in God's image.

So sex is certainly not, of itself, sinful. Just the opposite!

Human sexuality should be a lot more than just having sex.

We function well as animals, but we are selling ourselves short if that's as far as it goes. See sex and sexuality, and also prayer for couples.

To conceive a child that is not wanted by both its parents is a crime against that person's fundamental human rights.

That's fairly self explanatory.

Or as someone observed (and we'd like to source this quote): The most important thing any man ever does for his children is to love their mother.

Marriage is exclusive and permanent.

That's what marriage means. See the marriage article.

Do not arouse desires (either in yourself or your partner) that you do not intend to satisfy.

That sounds like commonsense. But it's easy to fool yourself, particularly with some mutual encouragement.

See also blue balls.

And a related suggestion:

Do not allow yourself to be petted by anyone you don't intend to sleep with.

That's advice that is traditionally offered to females of course, but it's equally applicable either way around, and even in same sex situations.

Your hormones are powerful, and so are those of your partner. By the time you find out how powerful, it may well be too late.

When it gets out of hand it may be rape, for which there is no excuse, or you may be a temporarily willing partner who only regrets what happens in hindsight. But the only known solution is the same in either case: Don't go there in the first place.

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